Why Beliefs Matter More Than Circumstances
Many people try to improve their lives by attempting to change and control the world around them.
We think we’ll feel better when other people change, or when our circumstances finally change. We may also try to control our feelings by detaching, rationalizing, and “staying positive.” These strategies rarely work well in the long run. As one of my good friends used to say, “don’t put frosting on a poop cake.” The original problem still exists, and the self-deception creates bigger problems.
The key to consistently feeling better lies in the understanding that beliefs shape perceptions, perceptions drive emotions, and emotions influence our physical health and lived experiences.
We see examples of this every day. Something that severely bothers us may not even remotely bother our companion. One sibling has a great relationship with her parents, while the other sees her parents as the source of all of her problems. Same circumstances, drastically different perceptions.
From here, we can see that uncomfortable emotions, and their physical impacts on the body, are not the core problem. Emotions are vital feedback, alerting us to our own limiting beliefs. Feeling triggered can even be seen as a gift that helps us identify where healing work is needed.
When core beliefs change, our experience of reality changes. Often the shifts are subtle. We wake up and find that situations that once felt threatening now feel neutral. Experiences that used to be triggering no longer hold the same power over us. We become less reactive and more open to new experiences because we are meeting life through a different internal framework. And we begin to attract more of what we want and less of what we don’t.
Core beliefs are deeply personal, and many of them are unconscious to us. We may develop theories about our limiting beliefs through systems like the Enneagram or through insight-oriented coaching work, and those approaches can be genuinely helpful. But until we work directly with the subconscious mind, it is difficult to pinpoint which beliefs are actually driving our unique emotional patterns. Power tools like Belief Code and PSYCH-K allow us to access this deeper layer more directly, making the change process both comparatively easy and extraordinarily efficient.
In any case, we will never get where we want to go by trying to control external circumstances. We can only get there by going within. Examining our beliefs requires courage, as most worthwhile things do. Thankfully, the return on that effort is often far greater than we allowed ourselves to hope.
